Comments on: The Best Date

By: Links Worth Reading « Wholesome Womanhood

Links Worth Reading « Wholesome Womanhood — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 14:07:26 +0000

[...] The Best Date – This blog post talks about the benefits of couples (whether married or dating) taking the time to invest in the lives of their single friends. If you are married (or dating/courting/engaged), please take the time to consider the point of this blog post. [...]

By: SavvyLittleWomen - Kate

SavvyLittleWomen - Kate — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 04:54:59 +0000

I meant, “that I add to their life like they do mine…” sigh …

By: SavvyLittleWomen - Kate

SavvyLittleWomen - Kate — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 04:53:29 +0000

LOVE this post! Two of my best friends are single, and they are 2 of my biggest blessings. I can only hope that add to their life like they do mine. Thanks for sharing!

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:12:01 +0000

I love this post Annie because it’s soooooo true! I dated the same guy for a looooooooong time (and was therefore part of the “couples crowd”)—so when we broke up 3 years ago—I finally found myself “single” in a circle of friends who were all couples. I’m not going to lie and say there weren’t times I missed having a significant other at certain functions—but for MOST of the time—I was totally fine just hanging with my buds and their husbands or boyfriends. They always made me feel welcome and included—and it was a great comfort to me—especially after such a hard break up!
After a few years of being single–I have now found myself in the “couples” category again. But THIS time–I know I am MUCH more sensitive to my “single” friends. I think as couples we tend to think “nobody wants to be the 3rd wheel”—but I’ve found (from my own experience) that many times we DO love being that third wheel!

I love that you wrote this post and have already directed some of my friends over to your site to read it!

Great job:)

By: Ashley Eicher

Ashley Eicher — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 20:13:55 +0000

Let’s start by calling you the “hottie tottie super fashionable uber funny singlet whose equally fabulous male counterpart is just waiting to sweep her off her feet”.

but yes, I agree amazing. so many things I could say here but ultimately am so thankful you shared this. In the words of Mr Cowart quoting the head of Chic-fil-A “If you want to know if someone needs encouragement, check to see if they are breathing.” I may have butchered it but that’s the gist and I love it.

By: Sarah McGalliard

Sarah McGalliard — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 04:27:31 +0000

hey! this post is incredible!!! it really made me think.

I was married about 2 and a half years ago.. my husband and I would always invite my best friend to do things with us and I would invite her over to hang out with me whenever my husband was out or even if he was in the office working. Once he was done, or got home, she always left quickly. We felt like we made her uncomfortable or unwelcome even though we did everything to tell her we would love for her to stay.

Also, often times when we would ask her to go out and do things with us she would seem uncomfortable or make passive aggressive comments about being the “third wheel”. It was my greatest desire to minister to her (And still is, but she has moved about 4 hours away since) but she seemed uncomfortable and it almost made me feel like she thought we were just hanging out with her out of pity. Any suggestions as to how to make her feel comfortable or welcome would be much appreciated.

I’m not sure if any of these things are true, I might just be inferring the wrong things from her since I’ve never talked to her about it. Luckily, we are going to spend the week with my brother and sister-in-law who live in the same city as her, so if things seem strange I will talk to her about it.

Your friends are incredible and you have a wonderful attitude about your singleness and allowing them to minister to you freely.

By: Lindsey Thompson

Lindsey Thompson — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 03:33:15 +0000

Hey Annie,

So I just had to make another quick comment that i was reading a sorority sister’s blog, Melissa Nash Hunt and realized that she had posts about you. Such a small world. Hope spinning class was fun the other day with Christian. You are doing a great job and i love reading your blog!

By: Corrie Freeman

Corrie Freeman — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:33:23 +0000

Annie..

Loved this! As a 33 year old single girl, I sometimes think the Lord has put me in this place so I can one day minister to singles. What sweet friends you have!!

By: ManUtd17

ManUtd17 — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 21:45:54 +0000

Sounds like a fun night! I guess I have to buy Boggs dinner now, huh? Ha! The potential downside to this though is that I could completely re-live the rejection of my younger days if none of our single friends want to have dinner with us. When I say “younger days” I mean when Melissa Driggers and I were in high school together WAY back in the day. (Worlds colliding!)

By: Melissa Brotherton

Melissa Brotherton — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:43:29 +0000

My husband’s best friend since high school (and one of mine for many years) is single and lives next door to us. We consider him a nightly inclusion at our dinner table and have spent numerous date nights with him joining us. He loves our kids and we were actually a little sad when he had a girlfriend because it meant we got to see less of him. I think it’s good for married couples to have both married and single friends; it maintains balance in our life and relationship.